Dale's Notes to consider when viewing Don Jon through the lens of Type Three: The Performer, The Leader
I think this movie is a masterpiece written and directed by a very talented young (imho) modern actor.
Image, Deceit, Image Management is the theme of this movie. Self Image, Image Projected for others, Images projected on to a screen or an image projected onto a person. The Date begins with a series of lies (deceit) and Barbara tells Jon he’ll do better in the future to always tell her the truth.
Wings: Flattery (2) is all over this Romantic (4 not grounded in reality) couple.
Jon tells Barbara his truth “You’re the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen in my life,” and then she asks “Do you like movies? “ (which are images). They go off to the world of Image: at the theatre there are two film choices—- SO HARD SO FAST in 3D and SPECIAL SOMEONE——such (hetero normative) gender extremes. Jon narrates the special someone observation wryly: “ everyone knows it’s fake, but they watch it like it’s real.” The 1-1 Instinct in Type 3 is described as Masculine/Feminine Extreme-Image-Projection.
Barbara begins to use sex and relating as a way to craft Jon in the image she wants (friends, family, school).
Everyone in the film has an image of others that they are not matching up to: Jon for his dad’s tech skills, Mom wants a romantic son, etc.
Anybody notice the sister? Ever? Hahaha!
Julianne Moore’s character brings up the concept of Pretending (ie in porn but applies to all in life… pretending).
The pretending and image management and lies fly— stories they tell their families and friends and each other. Barbara “fluffs” (flatters) him and tells him he’s going to be a business man (her image of him, her pretending) and she says the ultimate Three Line: “Hey, if he can do it you can do it. You’re a winner.” … “You shouldn’t be doing your own housekeeping. You’re a man. Don’t talk about vacuuming in front of me, it’s not sexy.”
At the end of the movie he doesn’t go work on his own body at the gym, he goes and plays ball w other guys. This is a sign of the character development of Type Threes: A movement towards Membership vs being stuck in The Image of Leadership. He sees and shares his truth with Barbara (who at this juncture cannot drop her image of herself and him, and her image of how couples work). Good luck, Barbara...
Ultimately his Character changes and he learns to Lose Himself (His Self)…. bc someone was lovingly honest with him. Thanks again for playing this role so often, Julianne Moore. Masterful.
I think this movie is a masterpiece written and directed by a very talented young (imho) modern actor.
Image, Deceit, Image Management is the theme of this movie. Self Image, Image Projected for others, Images projected on to a screen or an image projected onto a person. The Date begins with a series of lies (deceit) and Barbara tells Jon he’ll do better in the future to always tell her the truth.
Wings: Flattery (2) is all over this Romantic (4 not grounded in reality) couple.
Jon tells Barbara his truth “You’re the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen in my life,” and then she asks “Do you like movies? “ (which are images). They go off to the world of Image: at the theatre there are two film choices—- SO HARD SO FAST in 3D and SPECIAL SOMEONE——such (hetero normative) gender extremes. Jon narrates the special someone observation wryly: “ everyone knows it’s fake, but they watch it like it’s real.” The 1-1 Instinct in Type 3 is described as Masculine/Feminine Extreme-Image-Projection.
Barbara begins to use sex and relating as a way to craft Jon in the image she wants (friends, family, school).
Everyone in the film has an image of others that they are not matching up to: Jon for his dad’s tech skills, Mom wants a romantic son, etc.
Anybody notice the sister? Ever? Hahaha!
Julianne Moore’s character brings up the concept of Pretending (ie in porn but applies to all in life… pretending).
The pretending and image management and lies fly— stories they tell their families and friends and each other. Barbara “fluffs” (flatters) him and tells him he’s going to be a business man (her image of him, her pretending) and she says the ultimate Three Line: “Hey, if he can do it you can do it. You’re a winner.” … “You shouldn’t be doing your own housekeeping. You’re a man. Don’t talk about vacuuming in front of me, it’s not sexy.”
At the end of the movie he doesn’t go work on his own body at the gym, he goes and plays ball w other guys. This is a sign of the character development of Type Threes: A movement towards Membership vs being stuck in The Image of Leadership. He sees and shares his truth with Barbara (who at this juncture cannot drop her image of herself and him, and her image of how couples work). Good luck, Barbara...
Ultimately his Character changes and he learns to Lose Himself (His Self)…. bc someone was lovingly honest with him. Thanks again for playing this role so often, Julianne Moore. Masterful.
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