Type Two: The Connector
You've got a movie and some prose and poetry to ponder! By now you're skilled in what to watch for. The shadow side is pride and image management to be seen as helpful--- the gold is not flattery/charm/seduction/saccharin.... it's HONEST LOVE FOR ANOTHER.
In Tammy Faye: Do you see the Type 3 skill of Using an Image Management (and attention to helping folks care for others) alongside the Type 1 values of Order (in shadow form of church life) and a Heartfelt Wish to be Useful?
Type Two Themes: Pridefulness to humility; flattery to honest love. 2/3/4 want attention/image/approval— act as emotional barometers and facilitate connection between and amongst. Permanent make up means permanent image management.
As a girl: Tammy performs to get her mother’s acceptance and her community’s love. Even as an adult: coquettish laughing at first hearing jim baker; the puppet forces folks to experience ‘sweetness’ — sweetness with 2s can be real sugar or saccharin… an addiction to sweetness can be a shadow for 2s. you’ll see many scenes of mutual flattery and an addiction to fantasy new hopes.
2 primary value is love and connection: Tammy says “I love people; and I hurt when they hurt.”
She easily reframes and gets to the positive (279)— cheer, laughing, smiling, practiced image.
She wants to join Jim sharing “love” of god to all— in contrast to her mom’s belief there are limits to god’s love. Tammy thanks god “for love." She's like a Dolly Parton, in many ways-- one of my fav Type 2 Connectors. Be Good 1 / Sell It and Inspire 3.
(For you: See an old choice I made in this community for type 2 The Novel & Film: “The Last Temptation of Christ” for another exploration of this-- how big can god ask our hearts to be for one another? Ask the Sacred Heart...)
Avoid the self to serve the others: “I’m supposed to be resting… but i just wanna love people…”. She insists on being warm in the presence of a very cold ***disapproving / non-attuning ** mother. “all you are is blight.”. her mom is the antithesis of what tammy thinks people should be: “nice”…
Tammy plays a supporter’s role for Jim: Coach Type 3 and Order Type 1. She is willing *to be cutsie and to charm* the men at the table, but she also has 3 ambition to be in the planning dialogue with Pat Robertson/Jim/Others. Her disagreement is on behalf of love: “America is for them too” after their opposition to gays:feminists:liberals is expressed: “All people I love… god didn’t make any junk.” She cares “Not for who is going to hell…but the business of healing people.” I think she was about LOVE-- misguided next to Jim Baker and the viper evangelicals, but LOVE at the heart of it all.
(Sometimes we see so much of it in our culture we don’t see the Pride in Churchianity— i.e. I know what is right for you, god is king and he will rule forever. Jim Baker’s 3ish identification with god is exemplary of the evangelical movement and possibly Christianity itself— “I am doing so much for HIM and I cannot keep up... HE wants me to be successful and will reward me here and in heaven.”)
love can be misguided via(1) idealism (2) pride 3 (deceit).
The ptl tv station donors and its political connections clearly were based on two shadow “give to get”— Tammi’s deeper values clashed with it and the larger evangelical movement, ultimately.
> The scene where she interviews a gay man with AIDS— maybe that’s the **heart of her finally coming out clear. the msg is love everyone. ** notice the confident swagger she has afterwards. This became her later life focus, btw: glbtq/hiv/aids <
I wonder if a lot of 2s are trying to win love from a childhood where it was withheld. I wonder if we all are?!
Before passing judgement:
** The garrish make up— do we all wear some form of it in order to get approval???? ** Probably our own type has the answer.
Final scene/music: You can see this type is feelings and connecting extroverted (2) vs feelings and connection introverted (4). A skill is obvious here in getting others to feel.
Writings to consider below----
If we attempt to act and do things for others or for the world
without deepening our own self-understanding, our own freedom,
integrity and capacity to love, we will not have anything to give to
others. We will communicate nothing but the contagion of our own
obsessions, our aggressiveness, our own ego-centered ambitions."
-- Thomas Merton, Trappist Monk
The Parable of the Monkey and the Fish
A typhoon had temporarily stranded a monkey on an island. In a secure, protected place on the shore, while waiting for the raging waters to recede, he spotted a fish swimming against the current. It seemed obvious to the monkey that the fish was struggling and in need of assistance. Being of kind heart, the monkey resolved to help the fish. A tree precariously dangled over the spot where the fish seemed to be struggling. At considerable risk to himself, the monkey moved far out on a limb, reached down and snatched the fish from the threatening waters. Immediately scurrying back to the safety of his shelter, he carefully laid the fish on dry ground. For a few moments the fish showed excitement, but soon settled into a peaceful rest.
Joy and satisfaction swelled inside the monkey. He had successfully helped another creature.
Published by Kapp Consulting September 30, 2015
Poem: "He Attempts to Love His Neighbors," by Alden Nowlan, from Selected Poems. © Anansi. Reprinted with permission.
My neighbours do not wish to be loved.
They have made it clear that they prefer to go peacefully
about their business and want me to do the same.
This ought not to surprise me as it does;
I ought to know by now that most people have a hundred things
they would rather do than have me love them.
There is television, for instance; the truth is that almost everybody,
given the choice between being loved and watching TV,
would choose the latter. Love interrupts dinner,
interferes with mowing the lawn, washing the car,
or walking the dog. Love is a telephone ringing or a doorbell
waking you moments after you've finally succeeded in getting to sleep.
So we must be careful, those of us who were born with
the wrong number of fingers or the gift
of loving; we must do our best to behave
like normal members of society and not make nuisances
of ourselves; otherwise it could go hard with us.
It is better to bite back your tears, swallow your laughter,
and learn to fake the mildly self-deprecating titter
favored by the bourgeoisie
than to be left entirely alone, as you will be,
if your disconformity embarrasses
your neighbors; I wish I didn't keep forgetting that.
This poem, a reminder that attention towards the self is required...
LOVE AFTER LOVE
The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror,
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,\
and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.
-Derek Walcott
taken from the first page of the novel
The Time Travelers Wife. by Audrey Niffenegger 2004
WHAT MAKES A TYPE TWO's VALUE SYSTEM? This says it all...
The majority of us lead quiet, unheralded lives as we pass through this world. There will most likely be no ticker-tape parades for us, no monuments created in our honor. But that does not lessen our possible impact, for there are scores of people waiting for someone just like us to come along; people who will appreciate our compassion, our unique talents. Someone who will live a happier life merely because we took the time to share what we had to give. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have a potential to turn a life around. It’s overwhelming to consider the continuous opportunities there are to make our love felt.
-Leo Buscaglia
Something from Helen Palmer on Humility: a tall order for us all
Humility is standing naked in front of the mirror and being grateful for exactly what is there: not posturing to exaggerate more than what is, nor deflating what is really there. Just being with what is and being grateful for it.
A meditation on the (Type Two) Virtue of Humility:
Oh Tao~
Giving to all beings what they require, without claiming to be equitable;
Eternally performing good works, without claiming to be charitable;
Existing before the beginning, without claiming to be venerable;
Embracing and supporting the universe, without claiming to be powerful.
It is in You that I move.
--- Xu You
You've got a movie and some prose and poetry to ponder! By now you're skilled in what to watch for. The shadow side is pride and image management to be seen as helpful--- the gold is not flattery/charm/seduction/saccharin.... it's HONEST LOVE FOR ANOTHER.
In Tammy Faye: Do you see the Type 3 skill of Using an Image Management (and attention to helping folks care for others) alongside the Type 1 values of Order (in shadow form of church life) and a Heartfelt Wish to be Useful?
Type Two Themes: Pridefulness to humility; flattery to honest love. 2/3/4 want attention/image/approval— act as emotional barometers and facilitate connection between and amongst. Permanent make up means permanent image management.
As a girl: Tammy performs to get her mother’s acceptance and her community’s love. Even as an adult: coquettish laughing at first hearing jim baker; the puppet forces folks to experience ‘sweetness’ — sweetness with 2s can be real sugar or saccharin… an addiction to sweetness can be a shadow for 2s. you’ll see many scenes of mutual flattery and an addiction to fantasy new hopes.
2 primary value is love and connection: Tammy says “I love people; and I hurt when they hurt.”
She easily reframes and gets to the positive (279)— cheer, laughing, smiling, practiced image.
She wants to join Jim sharing “love” of god to all— in contrast to her mom’s belief there are limits to god’s love. Tammy thanks god “for love." She's like a Dolly Parton, in many ways-- one of my fav Type 2 Connectors. Be Good 1 / Sell It and Inspire 3.
(For you: See an old choice I made in this community for type 2 The Novel & Film: “The Last Temptation of Christ” for another exploration of this-- how big can god ask our hearts to be for one another? Ask the Sacred Heart...)
Avoid the self to serve the others: “I’m supposed to be resting… but i just wanna love people…”. She insists on being warm in the presence of a very cold ***disapproving / non-attuning ** mother. “all you are is blight.”. her mom is the antithesis of what tammy thinks people should be: “nice”…
Tammy plays a supporter’s role for Jim: Coach Type 3 and Order Type 1. She is willing *to be cutsie and to charm* the men at the table, but she also has 3 ambition to be in the planning dialogue with Pat Robertson/Jim/Others. Her disagreement is on behalf of love: “America is for them too” after their opposition to gays:feminists:liberals is expressed: “All people I love… god didn’t make any junk.” She cares “Not for who is going to hell…but the business of healing people.” I think she was about LOVE-- misguided next to Jim Baker and the viper evangelicals, but LOVE at the heart of it all.
(Sometimes we see so much of it in our culture we don’t see the Pride in Churchianity— i.e. I know what is right for you, god is king and he will rule forever. Jim Baker’s 3ish identification with god is exemplary of the evangelical movement and possibly Christianity itself— “I am doing so much for HIM and I cannot keep up... HE wants me to be successful and will reward me here and in heaven.”)
love can be misguided via(1) idealism (2) pride 3 (deceit).
The ptl tv station donors and its political connections clearly were based on two shadow “give to get”— Tammi’s deeper values clashed with it and the larger evangelical movement, ultimately.
> The scene where she interviews a gay man with AIDS— maybe that’s the **heart of her finally coming out clear. the msg is love everyone. ** notice the confident swagger she has afterwards. This became her later life focus, btw: glbtq/hiv/aids <
I wonder if a lot of 2s are trying to win love from a childhood where it was withheld. I wonder if we all are?!
Before passing judgement:
** The garrish make up— do we all wear some form of it in order to get approval???? ** Probably our own type has the answer.
Final scene/music: You can see this type is feelings and connecting extroverted (2) vs feelings and connection introverted (4). A skill is obvious here in getting others to feel.
Writings to consider below----
If we attempt to act and do things for others or for the world
without deepening our own self-understanding, our own freedom,
integrity and capacity to love, we will not have anything to give to
others. We will communicate nothing but the contagion of our own
obsessions, our aggressiveness, our own ego-centered ambitions."
-- Thomas Merton, Trappist Monk
The Parable of the Monkey and the Fish
A typhoon had temporarily stranded a monkey on an island. In a secure, protected place on the shore, while waiting for the raging waters to recede, he spotted a fish swimming against the current. It seemed obvious to the monkey that the fish was struggling and in need of assistance. Being of kind heart, the monkey resolved to help the fish. A tree precariously dangled over the spot where the fish seemed to be struggling. At considerable risk to himself, the monkey moved far out on a limb, reached down and snatched the fish from the threatening waters. Immediately scurrying back to the safety of his shelter, he carefully laid the fish on dry ground. For a few moments the fish showed excitement, but soon settled into a peaceful rest.
Joy and satisfaction swelled inside the monkey. He had successfully helped another creature.
Published by Kapp Consulting September 30, 2015
Poem: "He Attempts to Love His Neighbors," by Alden Nowlan, from Selected Poems. © Anansi. Reprinted with permission.
My neighbours do not wish to be loved.
They have made it clear that they prefer to go peacefully
about their business and want me to do the same.
This ought not to surprise me as it does;
I ought to know by now that most people have a hundred things
they would rather do than have me love them.
There is television, for instance; the truth is that almost everybody,
given the choice between being loved and watching TV,
would choose the latter. Love interrupts dinner,
interferes with mowing the lawn, washing the car,
or walking the dog. Love is a telephone ringing or a doorbell
waking you moments after you've finally succeeded in getting to sleep.
So we must be careful, those of us who were born with
the wrong number of fingers or the gift
of loving; we must do our best to behave
like normal members of society and not make nuisances
of ourselves; otherwise it could go hard with us.
It is better to bite back your tears, swallow your laughter,
and learn to fake the mildly self-deprecating titter
favored by the bourgeoisie
than to be left entirely alone, as you will be,
if your disconformity embarrasses
your neighbors; I wish I didn't keep forgetting that.
This poem, a reminder that attention towards the self is required...
LOVE AFTER LOVE
The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror,
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,\
and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.
-Derek Walcott
taken from the first page of the novel
The Time Travelers Wife. by Audrey Niffenegger 2004
WHAT MAKES A TYPE TWO's VALUE SYSTEM? This says it all...
The majority of us lead quiet, unheralded lives as we pass through this world. There will most likely be no ticker-tape parades for us, no monuments created in our honor. But that does not lessen our possible impact, for there are scores of people waiting for someone just like us to come along; people who will appreciate our compassion, our unique talents. Someone who will live a happier life merely because we took the time to share what we had to give. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have a potential to turn a life around. It’s overwhelming to consider the continuous opportunities there are to make our love felt.
-Leo Buscaglia
Something from Helen Palmer on Humility: a tall order for us all
Humility is standing naked in front of the mirror and being grateful for exactly what is there: not posturing to exaggerate more than what is, nor deflating what is really there. Just being with what is and being grateful for it.
A meditation on the (Type Two) Virtue of Humility:
Oh Tao~
Giving to all beings what they require, without claiming to be equitable;
Eternally performing good works, without claiming to be charitable;
Existing before the beginning, without claiming to be venerable;
Embracing and supporting the universe, without claiming to be powerful.
It is in You that I move.
--- Xu You
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